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Susanne Soborg Christensen Karnac Books ePub


In the previous chapters, we have discussed how we can develop acknowledging intimacy, and how our neurobiological development is directly influenced by acknowledging intimacy. In this chapter, we will try to look at the ways and means we can use in order to create and achieve acknowledging intimacy between us as partners. We shall also look at how this affects our children and how we, in a joint effort with our children, can develop an explicit acknowledging intimacy.

The tool we use is called the Acknowledging Dialogue. To us, this opens up an extremely efficient and exciting pathway to the development of deeper, more enduring, and generous relationships. The Acknowledging Dialogue is, first and foremost, a way of communicating which opens up a new connection and empathy. This dialogue is inspired by Active Listening and Imago Relationship Therapy.

We have chosen to call the tool the Acknowledging Dialogue because, to our way of thinking, acknowledgement is a central concept. In this context, acknowledgement means a way of being which enables us to put ourselves in our partner’s shoes and see the world through our partner’s eyes. In addition, acknowledgement includes the ability to respect the fact that our partner may see the world differently from us. As we have mentioned, difference does not equal deficit.

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5. Fidelity as a moral achievement

Christopher Clulow Karnac Books ePub

Warren Colman

It is a curious fact that while attitudes towards pre-marital sex and divorce have become far more liberal over the past fifty years or so, attitudes towards extra-marital sex have, if anything, hardened. While most people now accept that marriage will not be the only sexual relationship they have in their lives, and even that the marital relationship itself may not last for ever, around 90% still appear to believe that marriage, at least while it lasts, should be sexually exclusive. One may have more than one partner, but not more than one at a time. Strictures against infidelity may therefore be considered as the last bastion of the monogamous ideal.

Yet it is an even more curious fact that these attitudes are not at all matched by behaviour. The taboo against infidelity is one more honoured in the breach than the observance. It is, of course, notoriously difficult to acquire reliable statistics on a matter of this sort, not least when it is still the subject of considerable moral disapproval. Nevertheless, research evidence indicates that a reasonable, and probably conservative, guess would be that some infidelity takes place in around half of all married couples (Lawson, 1988). This is certainly the case amongst those couples coming to the Tavistock Institute of Marital Studies, where an affair is by far the most common presenting problem, often being the precipitating factor that leads couples who have been unhappy for some time to seek help (Clulow, 1984),

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Secret 9: Make a Mind-Body-Spirit Commitment

Kalena Cook and Margaret Christensen, M.D. University of North Texas Press PDF


Make a Mind-Body-Spirit


Despite Physical Challenges,

Obstetrician Chose a Birth Center

Melissa Crochet, M.D.’s Story

At ten weeks into my second pregnancy, my ovary twisted on itself. I knew something was wrong. I writhed in pain. At first I thought it was appendicitis. It became a nightmare because we had our toddler, Ethan, with us and we needed my husband’s mom to help care for him immediately. So my husband, Jay, called her from the Ob/Gyn’s office who was going to perform my surgery. Jay’s mom was teaching and she had to leave her class immediately. She needs directions when driving in Dallas and Jay stood in the doctor’s office looking out from the third floor window directing her on his cell phone turn-by-turn to the building.

With clenched teeth, I said,“Just get her heeere ....” Finally she arrived.

We all went down to the parking lot.The nurse carried our stuff and

I walked bent over in pain. It would ease off and then yaaaaa. I got in the car and just wished we would go. Jay stopped and turned. His mom wanted directions on how to get from there to our house. I heard him say,

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1. The Beginning

Peggy Heinkel-Wolfe University of North Texas Press PDF



The Beginning

SOME GIRLS DREAM OF BECOMING A MOM, but I wasn’t one of them. I wanted to play the piano ever since I was six years old and heard my Aunt Helen play Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata.

I was nine when I started class piano lessons. In the beginning, I practiced at home on a cardboard keyboard my teacher gave me. I imagined a sound like Helen made. Dad eventually brought home a turn-of-the-century “upright grand” piano—a pizza-parlor cast-off covered in deep blue paint. When I first pressed down on the ebony and ivory keys, the sound I made resonated all the way through my bones.

That same year, one of my teachers at Byron Kilbourn Elementary School decided I was gifted. Had I attended fifth grade at Milwaukee’s magnet school for gifted children, there would have been accelerated math, special study projects, even violin lessons, to go along with class piano I’d just started.

We visited the magnet school, but my parents wanted to think it over before enrolling me. Dad was attending Marquette

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Naomi Scott University of North Texas Press PDF


A attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), 7 attention span, 73 autism, 7, 28, 183–87

Ayres, A. Jean, 140

abdominal strength, 134, 136,

161–62 abused youth, 104

Adams, Ronald C., 17 adaptive equipment, 49

Advisory Council on Riding for the Disabled, 18 agility, 11, 70 aging population, 14–15, 127–31

Ainsworth, Gayle, 141 alignment, 64

All Star Equestrian Foundation,

Inc., 90, 91–95, 148

American Competition

Opportunities for Riders with

Disabilities, Inc. (ACORD), 81

American Hippotherapy

Association (AHA), 21–22, 190

American Occupational Therapy

Association, 5, 189

American Physical Therapy

Association, 5, 189 amputees and amputations, 6, 49 aneurysms, 55 anti-casts, 61, 114 anxiety, 7 aquatic therapy, 146, 147

Asberger’s Syndrome, 183, 186 asymmetry, 5

B backriding, 51, 175 balance and carriage driving, 73 and English saddles, 96 and hippotherapy, 5, 62–63,

64 maneuvers to increase, 40 and motion of horse, 11 and private riding programs,

88 of profile subjects, 109–10,

127, 129, 134, 136, 153,

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