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Pass On the Evocateur’s Gift 5

John P. Schuster Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

TO LIVE CONTENT WITH SMALL MEANS

TO SEEK ELEGANCE RATHER THAN LUXURY, AND REFINEMENT RATHER THAN FASHION

TO BE WORTHY, NOT RESPECTABLE, AND WEALTHY, NOT RICH

TO STUDY HARD, THINK QUIETLY, TALK GENTLY, ACT FRANKLY

TO LISTEN TO THE STARS AND BIRDS, TO BABES AND SAGES WITH OPEN HEART

TO BEAR ALL CHEERFULLY, DO ALL BRAVELY, AWAIT OCCASIONS, HURRY NEVER IN A WORD,

TO LET THE SPIRITUAL UNCONSCIOUS AND UNBIDDEN GROW UP THROUGH THE COMMON.

William Henry Channing

YOU HAVE COME some distance in answering your call. You believe intensely that you have a calling, and you have escaped the clutches of a saboteur or two. The good news is that people who have identified their calls don’t just attract saboteurs, they also attract supporters.

When you find support for your call in the form of people who take the time to assist your development, you begin the work of adding value to the world by becoming more of who you are. In this chapter we explore how assistance often comes in the form of dedicated others. Providing this assistance in and of itself is a type of calling.

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2 The Path of Wind

Anasazi Foundation Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Weeks into my journey, I came to the edge of a land
known by my people as “the land of winding cliffs.”

Sandstone ridges filled the horizon.
Junipers peeked out from crags in the rocky cliffs,
but otherwise vegetation seemed scarce.

I had never seen this land, but I had heard rumor of it
among my people. It was said to be a place to be avoided—
a confusing land where many entered and few returned.

But here it was, too immense to be avoided, or so I thought.
And so I entered it, despite my people’s warnings.

For most of a day, I carefully picked my way from one
canyon to the next, consulting the sun above for direction.
But as the day grew longer, I became less sure of each choice.

By the time the sun set, I was lost.
Rock walls rose high on either side, obscuring
the night sky and pressing their shadows against me.
After a series of choices I could not retrace, I found myself
stuck in a labyrinth of dead ends and gullies.

It was the last time in my life that I would feel fear.

Yes, the last time.

For as morning dawn broke,
I discovered a truth that casts fear away:

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Space: Want Some?

Beverly Kaye Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

If you’ve raised a teenager (or remember being one), you know the phrase “Give me some space!” Whether you call it elbow room or freedom, think of work-related space as more control, more flexibility, more independence, more power, or more influence.

If you’re feeling fenced in, overcontrolled, or frustrated by your lack of freedom, don’t wait for the rules to change or for your boss to fix it. Take charge and do something to get more space, right where you are.

Outer space refers to the physical world, especially your work environment. It includes the freedom or power to do things such as these:124

By inner space, we mean the mental and emotional space you need to feel creative and productive. It includes space to do the following:125

Which kind of space does this story illustrate?

Much of my work can be accomplished from anywhere. I’m on the phone or on the computer much of the day. I decided to ask my boss about telecommuting from home one day a week. Her first answer was, “No, we’ve never done that and we don’t want to set a bad precedent.”

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Chapter 12 Is This Your Life Reimagined Moment?

Richard J. Leider Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Something is happening, and it affects us all. Life Reimagined—the new phase of life—is changing the entire life course.

At first you might not notice the subtle but powerful changes that are under way. But once you start looking for it, listening for it—simply noticing it—you’ll discover that Life Reimagined is on everyone’s mind.

It’s everywhere around you. It’s covered in newspaper reports and written up in magazine stories that shape conversations. It’s embedded in political discussions of how we’re living and where we’re going. It’s what we talk about over the dinner table and in emails and phone calls with family and friends. It’s what comes up in sermons and commencement talks. It’s the topic of discussions that range from everyday friends sharing their experiences in coffee shops to leaders trying to make sense of the way the world is changing.

Because it’s everyone’s story.

It’s the shape of life today, the contour of the new territory. It is the defining spirit of our age, a movement. We are learning about it at the same time that we create it. It is everyone’s moment.

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CHAPTER SEVEN: The Cook

Richard Kradin Karnac Books ePub

This is the first dream brought by a 53-year-old woman whose chief complaint was difficulty getting along with her coworkers. Jill was an attractive middle-aged woman who might be described as “animated”. She reported this dream in the third session of the treatment.

I am four years old. I am standing in the kitchen of my parents’ house attempting to cook an egg. My parents are in one corner of the room and they are paying no attention to me. I am intent on cooking the egg. My parents disapprove. The egg breaks and flows down the side of the counter.

Associations

“This sounds like something I might have done. I was always trying to do things by myself that I was too young to accomplish.”

Although Jill’s associations to her dream were limited, I sensed that she was at ease working with imaginal material and that she displayed a degree of ego-objectivity that would help in building the therapeutic alliance.

Jill had previously been in treatment with another therapist for several years. She described her experience as pleasant but not very productive. It is advisable to determine a patient’s prior exposure to psychotherapy, and to inquire as to whether it was helpful, as well as to why and how it ended. At times, it may become apparent within the first sessions that the patient has prematurely left a previous treatment, in order to avoid working through unresolved issues, and might benefit by returning to it. However, I do not contact previous therapists unless this issue begs for resolution and then only with the patient’s express permission. Inquiries may reveal rigid negative transference responses that predictably will be repeated in the new treatment and that could lead to its premature disruption.

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Chapter 3: The Wishing Corner

Marie Elisabeth A. Franck Mortensen CreativeSpaces-fm.com ePub

Content:
Chapter 3: The Wishing Corner
- Imagination
- The wishing corner
- The consciously creative force
- Creating a new girlfriend
- Creating a new job

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3 Make Peace with Yourself

Mark Muchnick Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

MY SON, BLAKE, was born in the middle of a hurricane, literally as the eye of the storm passed over the hospital where my wife was giving birth. It was a scene that can only be described as chaotic: the hospital was already on backup generators due to flooding and a power outage, and we were on the only floor that hadn’t been evacuated yet. Nurses were running around frantically as my wife begged for an epidural. Then, just as she was about to deliver, the doctor informed us that the umbilical cord was wrapped around our baby’s neck. As he tried to remedy the situation, I could see signs of panic on his face. He reassured us that everything was fine, but our son was a deep blue color upon coming out of the womb.

All I remember is pleading to God to let this baby breathe. I can say without hesitation that I have never been so happy to hear a baby cry his lungs out. At that moment, I knew my son was resilient and determined to put up a fight, though I still wondered what impact the early trauma might have had on him. Did he stop breathing for too long? Would he be “normal”? I hated to think that way, but I kept torturing myself with the unknown.

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2 Focus on What You Can Do

Seth Adam Smith Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Now, after discussing all that, we probably need to talk about our “yeah, buts.” You might have read all that Dante/damnation stuff and said to yourself, “Yeah, but I really can’t do that thing because [insert convincing reason as to why you can’t do that thing].”

You might say, “Yeah, but I physically can’t do that.” Or you might say, “Yeah, but I just don’t have enough education.” Or you could say, “Yeah, but I’ve made too many mistakes.” Or “Yeah, but I’m mentally and emotionally broken—I’m damaged goods.”

Admit it, you have a “yeah, but.”

It’s OK—everyone has a “yeah, but.”

Well, here’s my “yeah, but.”

I struggle with chronic, genetic depression, which can often be debilitating and heart-wrenching. Depression runs in my family, and it would be easy for me to use that factor as a means to push away from others and blame my circumstances. And for many years, that’s exactly what I did.

But to be perfectly honest, those were the most difficult times of my life. It wasn’t until I felt a moment of empathy in the wilderness that I began to see my way forward.

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What I believe at this time

Margaret J. Wheatley Berrett-Koehler Publishers PDF

what I believe at this time

I’ve found that I can only change how I act if I stay aware of my beliefs and assumptions. Thoughts always reveal themselves in behavior.

As humans, we often contradict ourselves—we say one thing and do another. We state who we are, but then act contrary to that. We say we’re open-minded, but then judge someone for their appearance.

We say we’re a team, but then gossip about a colleague. If we want to change our behavior, we need to notice our actions, and see if we can uncover the belief that led to that response. What caused me to behave that way and not some other way?

Over the years, I’ve noticed that many of us harbor negative beliefs about each other. Or we believe that there’s nothing we can do to make a difference. Or that things are so crazy that we have to look out only for ourselves. With these beliefs, we cannot turn to one another.

We won’t engage together for the work that needs to be done.

I’ve been trying to stay aware of my own beliefs for many years. I’m describing some of them here for a few reasons. First, I want to be held accountable for these. I want my beliefs to be visible in my actions. Second, in stating them, you can learn a bit more about me.

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Memento Mori

Jed McKenna Wisefool Press PDF

These were the questions I put to myself when I decided to come meet Brett’s group and say goodbye with them, and as soon as I asked the question, I knew the answer. Memento Mori: Remember you must die...........

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Epilogue: The State of Family Mental Illness in America

Anna Berry Rowman & Littlefield Publishers ePub

Mental illness is the single-greatest cause of disability and premature death in the world, according to the World Health Organization (WHO).[1] The Global Burden of Disease study copublished by the WHO and the Harvard School of Public Health in 2010 estimates that mental illness in all its forms, including suicide, will account for 15 percent of the overall socioeconomic disease burden in established market economies like the United States by the year 2020—more than the disease burden of all cancers combined.

This study also found that major depression ranks second only to ischemic heart disease in terms of overall disease burden to established market economies (disease burden is calculated in terms of lost years of healthy, productive life due to either premature death or prolonged disability). Statistically speaking, disability and premature death caused by major depression cost society just as much—if not more—than blindness and paraplegia combined. Schizophrenic psychosis produces economic disability equal to that of quadriplegia.

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PART 3 Take Nothing Personally

Margaret J. Wheatley Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

And I say see who is there with you and celebrate.
At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally,
least of all ourselves,
for the moment we do,
our spiritual growth and journey come to a halt

Only as a warrior can one withstand the path of knowledge.
A warrior cannot complain or regret anything.
His life is an endless challenge, and challenge
scannot possibly be good or bad.
Challenges are simply challenges.
Don Juan, Carlos Castenada

Many of us have spent years learning to notice our emotional responses. And weve raised our children to be aware of when they feel sad or angry or frustrated. Western culture focuses our attention endlessly on noticing and working with our internal state.

This is helpful, up to a point. Its important not to deny any of our feelings, both the good and bad ones. But theres a crucial next step: we have to realize that we authored these emotional responses. We made them up, so we can change them.

Emotions dont exist independent of us—its not as if anger or grief float around looking for victims to inhabit. Everything we feel and experience comes from inside us. How we respond to any situation or person depends on whats happened to us in the past and, mostimportantly, what interpretations weve given to those experiences.

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Provoke the Stifling 6

John P. Schuster Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

HISTORY IS THE LONG AND TRAGIC STORY OF THE FACT THAT PRIVILEGED GROUPS SELDOM GIVE UP THEIR PRIVILEGES VOLUNTARILY.

Martin Luther King

“Letter from Birmingham Jail”

I GIVE YOU THIS ONE RULE OF CONDUCT. DO WHAT YOU WILL,

BUT SPEAK OUT ALWAYS. BE SHUNNED, BE HATED, BE RIDICULED,

BE SCARED, BE IN DOUBT, BUT DON’T BE GAGGED. THE TIME OF TRIAL

IS ALWAYS. NOW IS THE APPOINTED TIME.

John Jay Chapman

Commencement address, Hobart College, 1900

AT TIMES, people face circumstances they feel compelled to challenge. They direct themselves to attack intensely the way things are because the sum of those things, or one aspect they find particularly appalling, is destroying human possibilities.

This work constitutes a special kind of calling, one that takes courage in the face of organized adversity. If evocateurs evoke potential and capability, then those who challenge the injustice of a system, provoking its members to abandon the current design, must be named provocateurs. While many people bravely endure and personally triumph over injustice, fewer devote themselves to eliminating the injustice for themselves, for others, and for future generations. This is the calling of the provocateur.

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Chapter 1 Mordecai’s Proposition—A Question of Present Value

Peter Neuwirth Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

MORDECAI’S PROPOSITION — A QUESTION OF PRESENT VALUE

“If I gave you $10,000 today would you be willing to give me 1% of all your future paychecks?”

Mordecai Schwartz, FSA, to a young actuarial student

It was 1979 and I had just started my first job out of college as an actuarial student with Connecticut General Life Insurance in Hartford, Connecticut. My boss was a long-haired libertarian from Arkansas who spoke so quietly you had to lean in close to hear him. He was edgy, sarcastic, and rebellious (he had only recently caved in to the company’s insistent demand that he get a haircut and begin wearing decent clothes to work), but he was also one of the top actuaries in the company with a nose for risk and a wizard-like ability to make the numbers sing and dance. He always said that what makes a good actuary is not his or her ability to calculate, or even to use sophisticated mathematical techniques to evaluate risk, but rather to understand the music in the numbers—to hear the melody, to anticipate the chord changes, and most importantly to detect the false note. He said that a good actuary should be able to look at two columns of numbers with vague headings like “prior year actual” or “current year allocated” and, with no knowledge of what the figures were supposed to represent, be able to immediately identify the wrong number.

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EIGHT Navigating Through, Below, or Away from the Glass

Marcia Reynolds Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

When it comes to making important career decisions, many of my female clients start our coaching relationship by saying, “I’m not sure I want to be vice president” or “If I’m going to be CEO, it might as well be for my own company.” Are they giving up? On the surface, you would think these women would fight for top leadership positions regardless of the difficulties. They love a good challenge. They like visibility and recognition. They prefer leading rather than being told what to do. They want to make a significant contribution that provides meaning for their employees as well as for themselves. If they were coached to see the options available to them more clearly, would they make different career decisions? Even when they decide that leaving is the best choice, they still need to identify where they want to go next and how to get there. Helping my clients verbalize their frustrations and desires often leads them to different conclusions and action plans from what they brought to our first conversation.

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