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It's a Girl! It's a Boy!

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IT’S A GIRL! IT’S A BOY!

The arrival of a new baby is an exciting occasion. The words in this lesson will help you build a vocabulary for greeting a new baby and celebrating a birth or adoption.

A. Find and circle the hidden words.

Words may go up, down, across, backward, or diagonally. Check off each word as you find it.

___ cradle

___ labor

___ layette

___ birth

___ gestation

___ lullaby

___ adopt

___ maternity

___ diapers

___ infant

___ formula

___ parent

___ nursery

___ siblings

___ expectant

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B. Notice the italicized words as you read the sentences. Then write the word from the puzzle described in each sentence. Check a dictionary if you need help.

1. A gentle, soft song can lull a baby to sleep. __________________________

2. A very young baby is not yet a toddler. ______________________________

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17. The Management Level

Crenshaw, Dave Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Okay, managers. Question time!

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if every executive in your company read this book and agreed with it? That would be fantastic, right? Being a manager would be so much easier.

Some companies are more flexible and open when it comes to this stuff. Yet for most, the life of middle management is a realm of limited control. Painful yet true.

For the purpose of this chapter, let’s assume the worst-case scenario. Let’s imagine that you, as a manager, are essentially on an island when it comes to this Oasis stuff. The C-level execs haven’t gotten their hands on this book yet — let alone read it and agreed with it. No employees who work under you have any idea about the Culture of WIN or Oases or any of this cool stuff. You’re the only person in your company who has read this book.

What is your next move? Do you even have a move to make? You should. Per the Kelly Global Workforce Index, 63 percent of employees claim their managers have a direct influence on their job satisfaction. Additionally, 74 percent feel less loyalty toward their employer than a year ago. If you take a moment to read between those two lines, there are a couple of hidden messages:

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Chapter 5: Storming

George, Bill Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

HAVING ESTABLISHED THE NORMS NEEDED TO SUSTAIN the group’s vitality, we turn our attention to the other side of the coin: behaviors that may impede your group, which we call storming.

Because all of us are flawed human beings in our interactions with others, groups eventually experience a storming phase. Yet many groups fail to acknowledge the difficulties they are having. Denial is as alive and well in groups as it is in families, marriages, and other social milieus. However, it is much more constructive to address members’ concerns in a proactive manner.

New groups go through a honeymoon phase when things are going smoothly and members are in harmony. Over time, irritations at how the group operates or how some members behave will inevitably grow. Storming kicks in when things are not going well, when there is tension, or when some members feel the group is not meeting their needs. Let’s look at some storming issues faced by one group and how it handled them.

Jane Cavanaugh was part of a group of professional women that had been meeting for three years. The women in this group shared deeply, the members participated fully, and no one dominated the discussions. This led to high satisfaction among the members.

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At the Supermarket 1

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AT THE SUPERMARKET I

A. Who’s who at the supermarket? Read

the list of supermarket employees on the left. Write a letter by each number to match the employees with the things they use or manage.

1. _____ checker

a. meat

2. _____ carry-out person

b. flowers

3. _____ store manager

c. cash register

4. _____ butcher

d. customers and personnel

5. _____ produce manager

e. fruits and vegetables

6. _____ baker

f. prescription drugs

7. _____ florist

g. bread, pies, cakes

8. _____ pharmacist

h. shopping carts and bags of groceries

B. Supermarket ads aim to make products sound appealing. Match

each descriptive phrase with the product it best describes. Write a letter after each number.

1. _____ hen laid

a. produce

2. _____ ranch raised

b. beef

3. _____ freshly baked

c. bread

4. _____ sweet and ripe

d. eggs

5. _____ dairy fresh

e. milk

6. _____ nursery grown

f. customer service

7. _____ friendly and helpful

g. flowers

CHALLENGE!  Think of five items you often buy at

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CHAPTER 12 Honoring Our Separate Realities

Senn, Larry Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

All the thinkers have had substantially the same thought. It would probably astound each of them beyond measure to be let into his neighbor’s mind and to find how different the scenery there was from that in his own.

—WILLIAM JAMES

Everyone is familiar with the idiom Seeing is believing. But the more you learn about life, the more you discover that that simply isn’t true. The ease with which our eyes can deceive us is remarkable.

One powerful illustration of this truth is the surprisingly large number of people falsely convicted of crimes due to the erroneous testimony of eyewitnesses. In recent years hundreds of convicted felons have been released from prison based on the irrefutable results of DNA testing. Some of these men and women spent decades wrongly incarcerated based on eyewitness accounts—versions of reality that the witnesses were absolutely sure were correct but that turned out to be completely wrong.

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Step 2: Realize the Consequences

Blumenthal, Noah Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Questions to get you started:

How well do you know yourself?

Who knows you better than you know yourself?

“I don’t have the foggiest idea,” my client said to me. He had just finished telling me about a fabulously kindhearted and helpful thing he had done for one of his employees. I then asked him, “How do your actions look to her?” I asked this because his wonderful action was met by his employee with anger and resentment. When he told me he didn’t “have the foggiest idea,” it was clear that he saw his actions only through the lens of his own intentions.

All he had done was ask one of his star associates for progress reports on work that she was doing for one of their clients. He knew it was an important client. He wanted to offer input. He wanted to make his broad experience available to improve the quality of the service to the client. He wanted to be helpful. He didn’t want to be a burden, stifle creativity, question anyone’s capability, or micro-manage. He saw his action only in the best possible light.

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Oasis Category Worksheet

Crenshaw, Dave Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Take the lists you created in the brainstorming exercises and transfer each activity that you would enjoy to the worksheet below. Categorize each idea according to the amount of time it would require. Then make a note about the estimated cost next to each activity. For further information, refer to chapters 6 and 11 on discovering fun.

For a downloadable version of this worksheet, visit PowerofHavingFun.com.

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5 Reframing from Anxiety to Taking Control

Peterson, Rick; Hoekstra, Judd Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

You are a professional glove hitter. Hit the glove!

—RICK PETERSON

There are many things about pressure situations which cause our anxiety levels to rise. The reasons include, but aren’t limited to, these:

We focus on goals or factors outside of our control.

We focus on outcomes rather than the process to achieve those outcomes.

We get overwhelmed by the perceived difficulty of the task.

We commit to doing too much.

Our expectations are too high because we use the wrong measuring stick.

We exaggerate the importance of the situation.

In this chapter, we share a number of antidotes to pressure that will lower your anxiety levels and put you back in control.

At the beginning of spring training every year, Rick asks his pitchers, “What’s your goal?” Most of the answers given center around outcomes like winning a certain number of games, or pitching a certain number of innings. Rick takes these answers as an opportunity to teach a lesson in goal setting. While many of us have been taught to set lofty, long-term-outcome goals, the type that show up on the back of a baseball card or a company financial statement, these goals are overrated in comparison to lesser-appreciated, short-term, bite-sized process goals.

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At the Department Store 2

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AT THE DEPARTMENT STORE II

You might see or hear these boldfaced words and phrases when you’re shopping in a department store. Read each sentence. Circle a letter to show the best meaning of each boldfaced item.

EARLY BIRD SPECIAL

1. Mrs. Kim was up at dawn to take advantage of Briggs’ Department Store’s early bird specials. a. special prices offered only during early morning hours b. special prices offered only on turkeys and chickens

one day only opening at incredible savings until

4 a.m.!

8 a.m.

DON’T MISS THE WORM!

2. The store was offering door buster prices on holiday merchandise. a. prices so low that people would b. low prices on hammers be lining up at the door and nails

3. When some items sold out, the store gave customers rainchecks. a. free umbrellas with the b. slips of paper promising the same store’s name on them low price when more stock arrived

4. It was the customers’ last chance to buy certain close-out items. a. items the store would b. items sold only during no longer carry a certain season

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9 Kick Your Addictions, Return to Intimacy

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Dan Mahle

Iremember when I first discovered Internet porn. I was 17 years old. Fascinated by this world of unleashed sexual expression and fantasy, I couldn’t get enough of it. As I grew up and began exploring my own sexuality, I discovered just how different watching pixels on a screen was compared to the intimacy of making love with another human being. I thought I’d outgrow my porn habit over time. But I didn’t.

Porn had become an addiction. And, like most addicts, I was ashamed to talk about it or even admit it was a problem.

“Everybody watches porn,” I remember hearing. It seemed so pervasive and culturally accepted that having an actual conversation about it was a total non-starter. So I kept it to myself.

I didn’t realize how much watching porn had manipulated my mind, warping my sexuality, numbing my feelings, and affecting my relationships with women. And I was not alone.

According to a recent study, more than 70 percent of 18- to 34-year-old men visit porn sites in a typical month.2 And it’s not just guys watching sex online. It is estimated that one in three porn users today are women.3

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15 Heal, Don’t Punish

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Fania Davis

Tommy, an agitated 14-year-old high school student in Oakland, California, was in the hallway cursing out his teacher at the top of his lungs. A few minutes earlier, in the classroom, he’d called her a “bitch” after she twice told him to lift his head from the desk and sit up straight. Eric Butler, the school coordinator for Restorative Justice for Oakland Youth (RJOY) heard the ruckus and rushed to the scene. The principal also heard it and appeared. Though Butler tried to engage him in conversation, Tommy was in a rage and heard nothing. He even took a swing at Butler that missed. Grabbing the walkie-talkie to call security, the principal angrily told Tommy he would be suspended.

“I don’t care if I’m suspended. I don’t care about anything,” Tommy defiantly responded. Butler asked the principal to allow him to try a restorative approach with Tommy instead of suspending him.

Butler immediately began to try to reach Tommy’s mother. This angered Tommy even more. “Don’t call my momma. She ain’t gonna do nothing. I don’t care about her either.”

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4. The Five Stages

Crenshaw, Dave Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

I remember watching Mary Poppins when I was a kid. Besides having the hots for Julie Andrews, I remember falling madly in love with the theme of the song “A Spoonful of Sugar.”* The big takeaway from that song is that any task can be made less dreadful if we make it fun. Whether it’s cleaning your room, training employees, or creating a two-hundred-page report, a spoonful of fun will make the task far more manageable.

So that’s what we’ll do . . . you and me in your office, before I open my umbrella and fly to some other business.

Think your situation is particularly tough? I’ll bet you I’ve had clients in far worse shape. And my guess? You’ll find yourself loving this process. They were skeptical, too, but once they got in the groove, not a single one of them said, “I hate this.” Instead, their response has been, “How have I lived my life for so long without doing this!”

Consider one coaching client I’ve been working with for many years now. When we began the coaching process, she was clocking close to sixty hours a week and barely keeping her head above water with the multiple-location school she owned. She was frustrated. She was tired. She wasn’t getting to where she wanted to go — plus she was ready to have another child. Being a mother was important to her, but she didn’t see how she would have the time.

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Chapter Eleven: Master Your Fears

Tracy, Brian Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Courage is resistance to fear,
mastery of fear—not absence of fear.

MARK TWAIN

Perhaps the greatest challenge that you will ever face in life is the conquest of fear and the development of courage. Fear is, and always has been, the greatest enemy of mankind.

When Franklin D. Roosevelt said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself,” he was saying that the emotion of fear, rather than the reality of what we fear, is what causes us anxiety, stress, and unhappiness. When you develop the habit of courage and unshakable self-confidence, a whole new world of possibilities opens up for you. Just imagine—what would you dare to dream or be or do if you weren’t afraid of anything in the whole world?

Fortunately, the habit of courage can be learned just as any other habit is learned, through repetition. We need to constantly face and overcome our fears to build up the kind of courage that will enable us to deal with the inevitable ups and downs of life unafraid. The starting point in overcoming fear and developing courage is to look at the factors that predispose us toward being afraid.

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Nine The Metal Voice: Clarity and Focus

McAfee, Barbara Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

 

 

Better keep yourself
clean and bright; you are the
window through which you
must see the world.

George Bernard Shaw

 

The following are examples of the metal voice. Can you hear them in your imagination?

The Wicked Witch of the West screeches from the movie screen, “I’ll get you, my pretty, and your little dog, too!”

A bluegrass singer croons along with his banjo on a porch in the Appalachian Mountains.

Ethel Merman belts out “There’s No Business Like Show Business” on a Broadway stage that doesn’t have any microphones.

A Siamese cat improvises her own opera in an echoing hallway at three in the morning.

Willie Nelson kicks off “On the Road Again” to a cheering country music festival crowd.

The cartoon character Roadrunner evades the Coyote once again with a triumphant “Beep-beep!”

Madonna prances around the stage singing “Material Girl.”

The metal voice reverberates in what many vocal coaches call “the mask”—the area around the nose, eyes, and forehead. It focuses the sound in your sinus cavities, which act as powerful amplifiers for the vibrations your vocal cords make. These piercing sounds can be an intense experience as they ricochet around inside your head. I call the metal voice “the cheapest sound in the mall” because it uses only a tiny amount of breath to create a great big sound.

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Chapter 11: How to Use the Third Key: When You’re Still a Jerk

White, Kimberly Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

WHEN YOU’RE STILL A JERK

Here’s the problem with starting to see people as people: it turns out you’re still you.

So much about my life changed when I began to see my husband as a person; our relationship was transformed, no question, unbelievably for the better. In those first couple of weeks I thought we might never argue again because I was so completely changed.

It’s okay, you can laugh.

What I hadn’t counted on was that even with a new perspective on my life and my relationship, I was still the same person I was before, with the same faults, failings, and limitations. Only a month or so later, I came home from a trip to the usual disarray and became as angry and critical and judgmental as I ever had been before. I stormed around, shouting at the children to put things away, slamming a door in anger about all the burdens that fell to me, and in every possible way behaving with humiliating boorishness.

Of all the confessions I make in this book, this one pains me the most: I turned out, even having seen my husband as a person and having that perspective to draw on, to still be capable of being a big jerk. I did it much less frequently and pulled out of it more quickly, not being as convinced by my own self-absorbed perspective these days, but I was horrified to discover I was still capable of that kind of selfish, heedless, object-seeing frustration, even in the short term. My perspective had shifted, but my personality was the same.

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