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17 Marching Bootless

The Arbiner Institute Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

“No, seriously, what did it accomplish?” Lou persisted. “What good did this do—taking off their shoes?”

“It isn’t so much what good it did,” Yusuf responded, “as what good it invited.”

“Okay, then, what good did it invite?”

Yusuf looked at Mei Li and Mike. “Do you want to speak to that?”

“Sure,” Mei Li said. She looked at Lou. “I’m not sure what good it invited, Mr. Herbert,” she began.

How does she know who I am? Lou wondered.

“But I know what happened—to Jenny,” she continued. “She decided on her own to enroll in the program. And I bet you wouldn’t have predicted that.”

“No,” Lou agreed, his eyebrows rising in surprise, “I can’t say that I would have.” Then he added, “How did that happen?”

“Well, after a few hours, we finally ended up at a mall. And Jenny ran into one of her friends. She started telling her what her parents had done to her and about this program they had tried to take her to. She mentioned that we worked for that program as well and that we had been following her for most of the day.

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A Brief Preview

Jed McKenna Wisefool Press PDF

Lisa didn’t start out as my editorial assistant. I met her through her father Frank who told me a little about the crisis she was undergoing and suggested that it might have something to do with my books........

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Chapter 3 Making Big Decisions

Neuwirth, Peter Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

MAKING BIG DECISIONS

Sometimes the decision is minor and the calculation is as straightforward and clear as the ones described in the last chapter, but sometimes there is a lot more at stake than just the cost of a new appliance or where to go on vacation. In many of these more important decisions, there are many more factors to consider and more uncertainty about the future, which makes the determination of what to do more interesting. It is in these complex but vital areas where the power of Present Value and its application in our day-to-day lives begins to show its true worth.

Some of the most important decisions in our lives revolve around whether to make a major purchase or financial investment and, as I said before, these clearly could benefit from a Present Value analysis. In chapter 2 I showed how basic Present Value thinking can help you navigate your day-to-day life and decide among actions whose financial consequences are straightforward to imagine. Most of the major financial commitments that we consider can be looked at in the same basic way as I looked at my refrigerator purchase and the other more investment-oriented examples described earlier. In most cases the only difference is that the dollars are bigger, so the amount of energy you put into the analysis should also be greater.

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4 Beneath Behavior

The Arbiner Institute Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Just then, one of the young employees of the company walked in the room and whispered something to Yusuf. Excusing himself, Yusuf quickly followed the worker out of the room.

After he left, Pettis said to Avi, “I’m not sure what Yusuf meant by a heart being at peace. I’d like to hear more about that.”

“Sure,” Avi said. “To begin with, let’s compare Saladin’s recapture of Jerusalem to the earlier capture by the Crusaders.” He looked at Pettis. “Do you notice any differences in the two victories?”

“Certainly,” Pettis responded. “The Crusaders acted like barbarians.”

“And Saladin?”

“He was almost humane. For someone who was attacking, anyway,” he added.

“Say more about what you mean by humane,” Avi invited.

Pettis paused to gather his thoughts. “What I mean,” he finally said, “is that Saladin seems to have had regard for the people he was defeating. Whereas the crusading forces seem—well, they seem to have been barbaric, as I said before. They just massacred all those people as though they didn’t matter at all.”

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The Purpose Study Group

Leider, Richard J. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Session 1: The Meaning of Purpose

Read:

The Preface and Part I, Chapters 1—4.

Do:

Before the session, answer the following questions:

If you could live your life over again, what would you do differently? (Preface)

Look ahead. How old do you think you’ll live to be? (Chapter 1)

My calling in life is_______. (Chapter 4)

Discuss:

Decide who will be the facilitator.

Perform group introductions.

Read the quote by Andrew Greeley in Chapter 5 (”It seems to me that in the last analysis there are only two choices ”) aloud and discuss it.

Discuss the three presession questions (above).

Session 2: Paths to Purpose

Read:

Part II, Chapters 5-7.

Do:

Review the eight intelligences in Chapter 6.

Rank-order yourself from 1 to 8 based on what you perceive your natural strengths to be (1 is highest, 8 is lowest).

Think of a talent that would fit in your #1 area.

Review the nine passion questions in Chapter 7-

Discuss:

Read aloud the quote by Viktor Frankl at the beginning of Chapter 5 (”We can discover the meaning of life in three different ways . . .”) and discuss it.

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Empowerment Guide

Caprino, Kathy Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

I. EMPOWERMENT WITH SELF

CRISIS Resolving Chronic Health Problems (chapter 4)

* STEP BACK TO EXPLORE The body is communicating what the lips are not.

* LET GO of ignoring or resisting what is.

* SAY YES! to hearing your body, your intuition, and your heart.

* BREAKTHROUGH “I am healthy and strong.”

* BEST ADVICE Hear your body. Heed your intuition. Follow your heart.

CRISIS Overcoming Loss (chapter 5)

* STEP BACK TO EXPLORE Grieving lost parts of yourself.

* LET GO of overidentifying with one aspect.

* SAY YES! to healing lost parts of yourself.

* BREAKTHROUGH “I am integrated and whole.”

* BEST ADVICE Bring suppressed parts forward. Avoid overidentification. Find a “better way.”

CRISIS Achieving Self-Love (chapter 6)

* STEP BACK TO EXPLORE Needing to reclaim your power from a source outside of you.

* LET GO of giving up your power to others or things.

* SAY YES! to acting in alignment with the real you.

* BREAKTHROUGH “I love and accept myself.”

* BEST ADVICE Discover where you are being false. Find the power inside you. Disentagle from your struggle.

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7. The Relationship Key

Eric Maisel New World Library ePub

Chapter 7

THE RELATIONSHIP KEY

Relationships in the arts are complicated. You may be very friendly with a fellow painter and also quite envious of her. You may actively dislike a gallery owner or a collector but decide that he is too valuable to cast aside, maybe because he is your only advocate or your only customer. You may respect your editor’s opinions but despise the rudeness with which she delivers them. There may be no such thing as a genuinely straightforward relationship anywhere in life, but relationships in the arts are that much more complicated and shadowy.

Let’s try to tease out fifteen sensible rules for marketplace relating:

1.   You can’t succeed in the marketplace without the help of others. You can do whatever you like in your mind and you can do whatever you like in the studio, but if you want an audience, then you need help in the marketplace. Even if you engage in the equivalent of self-publishing, you still need audience members if you want to feel successful. So, the first rule is that you can create as if you were on an island, but as soon as you want to share your creative efforts with others, you are embroiled in the world of others. There is just no getting around that.

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Chapter 2 It’s Not My Job, It’s Not My Fault

Izzo, John B. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

There are two kinds of people in the world, those
who make things happen and those who complain
about what’s happening
.

How many times in an average week do you hear someone utter these sentiments? “It’s not my job! It was not my fault. It’s just the way I am. It’s just the way it is. What can I do about it? It is bigger than me.”

If stepping up is about taking responsibility for change instead of waiting for others to act, you might ask, “What’s in it for me to step up and take responsibility?” In this chapter, I make the case that you will be happier, more successful, and ultimately have more influence if you banish such sentiments from your thinking. People who say, “It is my job, some of it is my doing, I can be different, and I don’t accept things the way they are,” are simply happier and more successful than those who focus outside themselves.

Locus of control is a concept in social psychology that refers to how much individuals believe they can control events that affect them. The concept was first developed by Julian Rotter in 1954 and has become an important focus in the study of personality. Locus (a Latin word meaning place, location, or situation) can either be internal or external. In the 1960s, Rotter investigated the implications of our tendency to attribute successes and failure either to internal forces (those we have control over) or to external forces (those outside of our influence). We humans fall into one of two camps: Internals, who do things, and Externals, who have things happen to them. Individuals with a high internal locus of control believe that events result primarily from their own behavior and actions. I call these people initiators, because they believe they mostly make their own destiny. Those with an external locus of control believe that powerful others, fate, or chance primarily determine events. These people I call victims, because they feel that life mostly is done to them rather than through them. Research shows that external locus of control (victim thinking) is linked to greater stress and a greater tendency toward clinical depression. Initiators—people who believe that their actions influence reality—on the other hand have been shown to be both more successful and happier.

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Chapter 1 Go Beyond Passion and Success

Ray, Michael Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

ALMOST WITHOUT FAIL, when I ask people to tell me their highest goal, they give me what a company would call a purpose, a part of its organizational vision. People are often magnanimous, saying they exist to improve the lot of others, to leave the world a better place or simply to serve. Sometimes they refer to their own personal development. One person, for example, told me her highest goal was to adapt.

If I keep asking the question in different ways—“That’s good, but what goal do you have that supports you in living out that purpose?” or “What allowed you to get past that difficult time that you had last year?”—most people eventually begin to get at their highest goal.

Few people say their highest goal is something material—the very nature of the question goes deeper than a desire to win the lottery or own a beach house. Still, very few people talk about the highest goal that probably has been with them from the beginning of their life and that has been supporting them in everything they do. I suspect that is because we are conditioned to talk about our highest goal in terms of our potential contribution, rather than about the force that helps us to make that contribution.

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Chapter Twelve: Persist Until You Succeed

Tracy, Brian Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Determine to become one of the best;
sufficient money will almost automatically
follow if you get to be one of the “best”
in your chosen field, whatever it is.

DON G. MITCHELL

The most important single quality of success is self-discipline. Self-discipline is having the ability within yourself, based on your strength of character and willpower, to do what you should do when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.

Character is the ability to follow through on a resolution after the enthusiasm with which the resolution was made has passed. It is not what you learn but whether or not you can dedicate and discipline yourself to pay the price, over and over, until you finally reach your goal. Self-discipline is required in each stage of your journey.

You need self-discipline to set your goals in the first place. You need self-discipline to make plans for their accomplishment. You need self-discipline to continually revise and upgrade your plans with new information. You need self-discipline to plan each day, set priorities on the use of your time, and concentrate on the most important task that you could be doing at any time.136

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Chapter 2: Mechanical Triggers

Ya-Ling J. Liou Return to Health Press™ PDF

CHAPTER 2

Mechanical Triggers

TISSUES OF THE BODY CAN EXPERIENCE mechanical injury when structural integrity is threatened. Some examples of mechanical stress or mechanical triggers of inflammation include:

• Compression (compressive forces)

• Lengthening, i.e., any positioning of body parts at some distance from our individual center of gravity

(tensile force)

• Shearing forces that result from combining compression and tension

“The spine experiences and negotiates the compressive force of gravity all day long.”

Compression

Compressive forces can come from gravity or from a crushing type of injury

(Figure 2.1).

FIGURE 2.1 COMPRESSION—A MECHANICAL STRESS: Compression

is a mechanical stress that can trigger pain. The spine experiences and negotiates the compressive force of gravity all day long. Gravity is a significant compressive force all on its own, but, combine that with a blow or a fall, and we have a reasonable mechanical trigger for pain.

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CHAPTER NINE: Deep calls unto deep: can we experience the transcendent infinite?

W Gordon Lawrence Karnac Books ePub

Thomas Michael

Deep calls to deep in the roar of your cataracts, and all your waves, all your breakers sweep over me.

Revised English Bible, Psalms, 42:6

And the earth was without form and void, and darkness was upon the face of the deep.

Revised Standard Version, Genesis, 1:2

This chapter is based on a social dreaming matrix I conduct in a mainline Protestant church with which I am associated. It is a congregation of fewer than 150 members, located in an upper-middle-class suburban neighbourhood. The social dreaming matrix was scheduled for three weekly sessions as a part of an adult education forum series.

The purpose of the matrix was to seek for new insight into the direction the congregation should follow. There has been a long-term decline in membership, and there is concern for its future. It is a lively fellowship with excellent programs, but attempts to reach out for new members have not been encouraging. It seemed clear that we needed to find new approaches to mission. Accordingly, I proposed that we institute social dreaming as a possible way to discover some new directions. This was inspired by Gordon Lawrence’s idea that there is emerging a politics of revelation to replace a politics of salvation (Lawrence, 2000a, pp. 165ff.).

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The Golden Door

Jed McKenna Wisefool Press PDF

On the other hand, it sounds weirdly insane and dangerously radical: Heresy...........

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37. Model the Success You Desire

Jim Donovan New World Library ePub

If you allow it and are open to it, you can learn from everyone you meet. Depending on the encounter, either you can learn how to achieve the results you want, or, as is in the case of undesirable encounters, you can learn what not to do. Both lessons can be valuable.

Over the years I’ve made a practice of studying people who have achieved something I’d like to accomplish. Whether in health, fitness, business, or even relationships, if I want to achieve a particular result, I can find someone who achieved it and learn to do what they did. This idea, known as modeling, is a simple, powerful way to increase performance in any area of your career or personal life and is a strategy that can be used by anyone.

Simply find someone who is a achieving the kind of results you’d like in a given area and learn what she does and how she does it. If possible, meet with her personally and ask for her help. You could interview a top producer in your company, for example, and learn what she did. Then simply follow in her footsteps.

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56. Avoid Energy Zappers

Jim Donovan New World Library ePub

Every company has them. Energy zappers are those people who spend their days telling whomever will listen all about their latest illnesses or the accident that happened on the freeway. These are the people whose mission in life is to make everyone feel as bad as they do.

They’re negative people who seem obsessed with finding something wrong in every situation. If it’s a beautiful, sunny day they’ll tell you about the storm that’s coming tomorrow. They lie in wait for some terrible tragedy to befall them instead of enjoying the present moment.

While they may be good, caring people, they’re difficult to be around. If you’re having a fantastic day the energy zapper will come along and rain on your parade. You know the people I’m referring to. We all have them in our lives. Unfortunately, many times they’re some of the people who are closest to us, perhaps even family members. You may be going along having a fantastic day, feeling awesome, as happy as can be, when suddenly you encounter the energy zapper. Within five minutes of listening to her, you feel like you need a nap. She sucks the energy and good feelings out of you.

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