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8. Being More Attractive

Fleming, Carol Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

YOU KNOW WHAT GRANDMA SAID ABOUT FLIES AND HONEY!

People have many other people they can choose to talk to. Looking good increases the odds that they will choose you. Like flies to honey. When you look sharp:

• You feel great (confident).

• Other people sense your respect for the event and for yourself.

• You are credited with more positive attributes than you can imagine.

This chapter makes the case for looking good in social situations. It is about how and why to make the effort to spruce up, to dress appropriately for the occasion, and to use your appearance to encourage conversation. This chapter is not about dressing up, dressing to impress other people, spending a lot of money, or being uncomfortable.

People size each other up lickety-split, by which I mean milliseconds. We are very, very good at interpreting what we see, and the better you look (remember, it’s relative!) the more credit people give you. I would take advantage of that if I were you.

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12. Helping Others and the World

Caprino, Kathy Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

I get up every morning determined both
to change the world and to have one
hell of a good time. Sometimes, this
makes planning the day difficult
.

E. B. WHITE

* STEP BACK TO EXPLORE Resisting the fact that you can make a difference.

* LET GO of believing you don’t have what it takes.

* SAY YES! to changing the world.

* BREAKTHROUGH “I help others and the world.”

* Laurie: I suppose you could call my professional experience of several years ago a “crisis,” but truthfully, I’ve been through such personal traumas that I don’t use the word lightly. I’m a mother of two, Luke (16 years old now) and Dylan (14), who are the loves of my life, along with my husband, Grayle. Luke is a surviving twin, and we lost our son Jason at 6 days old. That was a true medical and personal crisis, and it was unspeakably painful. My newborn babies were terribly ill, and Luke survived with significant special needs. After that experience, everything pales in comparison. This life experience, of losing Jason, and now having two precious children—one of whom has extensive special needs—has given me so much that is a blessing, and I’ve received real perspective from it.

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15. Ask a Bigger Question

Jim Donovan New World Library ePub

I believe it was Mark Victor Hansen, cocreator of the wildly successful Chicken Soup for the Soul book series, who said, “If you want a bigger result, ask a bigger question.”

If you listen to people’s conversations, particularly around the water cooler, you’ll hear an endless diatribe of disempowering questions such as, “Why do I get all the lousy assignments?” and “Why don’t I ever get a break?”

Asking focused and well-formed questions is one of the most powerful techniques we can employ in any situation, especially in the workplace. Try using a series of empowering questions first thing in the morning as a way to start off your day feeling good about yourself and the day ahead.

Simple questions such as, “What am I looking forward to today?” “What am I happy about today?” and “What am I grateful for today?” will enable you to begin your day on a more positive note.

Unfortunately, too many people ask questions such as, “Why do I have to go to work today?” “Why do I have to get out of bed so early?” and other disempowering ones that do little more than undermine what good feelings they may have had and put them in a less-than-great mental state as they begin their day. Right from the start they are defending their lack of success with a “why me?” attitude.

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Principle 9: Trespass Continuously

Treasurer, Bill Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

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Kurt Hahn was Adolph Hitler’s first political prisoner.1 In January 1933, one month after Hitler came to power, Hahn was jailed for openly challenging the Fuehrer’s actions. Hahn was the founder of the Salem School, a school that focused on character development through the use of experiential education techniques. Upon learning that Hitler had sent a congratulatory telegram to five storm troopers who had murdered a young Communist by stomping him to death, Hahn had written a letter to all Salem alumni, telling those with ties to the SS to “terminate their allegiance either to Hitler or to Salem.”2 For thumbing his nose to Hitler, Hahn was imprisoned. He was released a few months later, but being of Jewish origin and having just had a foreshadow of Germany’s future, Hahn fled to Great Britain. Within a year of arriving, he set up a new school in Scotland: The Gordonstoun School.

Like the earlier school, Gordonstoun used innovative, experiential approaches to education. Hahn believed that students benefit most when all aspects of their being are developed: mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual. Thus, the curriculum included rigorous study, strenuous exercise, periods of extended silence, craftwork, art and music, and character development. In addition to their studies, students learned mountain rescue techniques, participated in the local fire brigade, and rowed lifeboats along the rugged Scottish seacoast. Hahn believed that every student has a “grand passion” and saw it as his aim to help them shed the “misery of unimportance.” He explained, “We are all better than we know; if only we can be brought to realize this, we might never settle for anything less.”3 The school became so successful that Britain’s Prince Phillip, himself a Gordonstoun alumnus, insisted that each of his three sons, princes Charles, Andrew, and Edward, attend the school.

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Ten The Air Voice: Inspiration, Possibility, and Spiritual Connection

McAfee, Barbara Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

 

 

If you surrendered to the
air, you could ride it.

Toni Morrison

I dream of painting and
then I paint my dream.

Vincent Van Gogh

 

The following are examples of the air voice. Can you hear them in your imagination?

A doting father makes faces and babbles happy nonsense at his newborn child.

Marilyn Monroe sings “Happy Birthday, Mr. President” to John F. Kennedy.

A storyteller leans toward a group of children and breathlessly intones, “Once upon a time in a land far, far away…”

Doves coo at twilight.

An elderly woman prattles to her little dog in tones that make him wiggle with excitement.

The voices of the Vienna Boys Choir fill the cathedral with angelic sound.

The air voice in its purest form feels as though it is floating a few inches above the top of your head. If your hair follicles could sing, they would sound like this. You can hear and feel the air moving through your mouth when you’re using this voice. The key is to blend a tiny amount of tone with a veritable windstorm of breath. Many people experience dizziness when opening up the air sound, especially if it’s not a part of their usual way of speaking.

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15. Giving Sorrow Words

Malcolm N. McLeod Basic Health Publications, Inc. ePub

Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak,
knits up the o’er wrought heart and bids it break.

—WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE(1564—1616)

I came to know Sara as a person as delicate as a recently freed butterfly—and about as ill-prepared to face harsh Nature.

After Sara was sent back to live with her mother, this once placid child was “impossible to manage.” She had frequent temper tantrums and her mother either threw cold water on her or beat her. Eager to get some rest, her mother occasionally sent Sara to visit her uncle, the husband of the deceased aunt. Although Sara was never certain, she thinks he sexually abused her.

During Sara’s preteen years, she developed eating difficulties. Her appetite became ravenous and almost impossible to control.

She said, “There must be something genetic in my craving for sweets. People on both sides of my family crave sweets. Once I saw one of my uncles eat a gallon of ice cream at one sitting.”

“Did you mean to say a pint or a quart of ice cream?” I asked Sara.

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Part 2: Yoga

Patricia Monaghan New World Library ePub

T he origins of yoga are lost in prehistory. Archaeologists have found yogalike postures carved on stone artifacts created approximately four thousand years ago in the Indus Valley in what is now Pakistan. But the first writings that describe the path of yoga came from about 200 BCE in the form of the aphorisms and sutras of the Hindu sage Patanjali. These sutras, which give instructions on how to quiet the mind, codified information that had been transmitted orally for a long time.

Both Patanjali and the Buddha, who lived several hundred years earlier, believed that the source of human suffering is the craving for permanence in a universe of impermanence. However, they differed in their belief in the existence of a permanent reality. Patanjali’s yoga holds that there is a material reality, called prakriti in Sanskrit, and a spiritual reality, called purusha. Buddha taught that everything, including what appears to be the spiritual realm, is impermanent.

Yoga is a rich, variegated tradition that appeals to people with a wide range of temperaments and aptitudes. According to yoga, we can never escape the influence of the unconscious by mere intellectual understanding of its contents. The path of enlightenment, or liberation, requires more than an intellectual mode of cognition. It requires the combination of the intellect and the intuitive or other sensory modes of knowing.

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15 No Hope No Fear

Wheatley, Margaret J. Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

 

Many years ago, I was introduced to a phrase that both intrigued and confused me. It is a familiar phrase in Buddhist texts: “the place beyond hope and fear,” a state of awareness that frees us from suffering.

In today’s global culture, where we’re incessantly told to strive for achievement and success, to be positive and hopeful, why would we ever want to give up hope? It seems incomprehensible that this would be a good thing. After all, Dante defined Hell by writing, “Abandon all hope, ye who enter herein.”

Nowadays, we live and breathe hope. It doesn’t matter what religion you were raised in, hope plays a central role, often being the very essence of the faith—hope for heaven, for redemption, for peace, for a good life, for something better than what we have now. The prophets in the Old Testament warned, “Without vision, the people perish.” And of course they’re right. People who lose hope lose their life energy and die, at least spiritually and emotionally. So why would we ever want to give up hope?

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4. Magic in a Nutshell - The Art of True Healing

Marc Allen New World Library ePub

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MAGIC IN A NUTSHELLTHE ART OF TRUE HEALING

Within every man and woman is a force

that directs and controls the entire course of life.

Properly used, it can heal every affliction

and ailment we may have.

— ISRAEL REGARDIE, The Art of True Healing

In my early twenties, I conducted a sloppy, disorganized, lazy, and intuitive search through the books of Western magic. Most of the books are vast and complicated. They include systems that take decades to master, and many of them seem to require a committed group of people to work with — in many cases, with a rigid hierarchy of different levels of mastery.

One little book, however, avoids all that complexity. It’s a little precious jewel, originally published in 1932, that is the best summary of Western magic I have ever encountered: The Art of True Healing by Israel Regardie.

The essence of the book (as we’ve already seen) is contained in a little exercise called the Middle Pillar Meditation. The very first words of the book give us the tools of magic in two simple sentences: Within every man and woman is a force that directs and controls the entire course of life. Properly used, it can heal every affliction and ailment we may have.

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5. Stage One: Your Permission to Play

Crenshaw, Dave Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

For a moment, imagine that you’re nine years old. Your teacher is lecturing about the importance of long division or vowels. You’re waiting for the hour hand on the clock to reach 2. You may still have a tough time reading analog clocks, but you know that the 2 means recess time. The time arrives, and, like a Tasmanian devil, you recklessly shove your school supplies into your desk and run out the door. For a solid fifteen to twenty minutes, you play foursquare, tag, follow the leader, make-believe, and — the mother of all recess games — kickball.

Different countries use different words: recess, break, interval, playtime, free period, morning tea. Whatever you call it, the result and the meaning are the same: a necessary break for children from the rigors of schoolwork. The American Academy of Pediatrics has repeatedly emphasized that children need to have downtime between cognitive challenges. Even the Office of the United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights has weighed in, recognizing the right for children to play as an essential part of their well-being.

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23 Broaden Your Cultural Perspective

Muchnick, Mark Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

MORE THAN EVER before, the saying “It’s a small world” rings true when it comes to being globally connected. Whether in politics, environmental issues, military conflicts, technology, or the economy, there is a growing awareness that what’s going on in other parts of the world can have a very real and immediate impact on our lives. But despite the realization that we are a global community, the lens through which we view other people, their customs, and their ways of life is still rather limited. For instance, many of us proclaim to celebrate cultural diversity with only superficial knowledge of the cultures being celebrated. From this standpoint, our perspective is myopic and may in turn be a reason for regret.

The time is ripe to broaden our perspective on cultural diversity as part of our evolution as world citizens. While this can be done in part by travel or study abroad, it is also as simple as taking the initiative to expand our awareness of the diverse cultural world that is closer to home. For instance, two colleagues of mine, Joe and Susie, have a long-standing ritual with a group of their friends from different cultural backgrounds where they celebrate each other’s traditions and holidays together throughout the year. This includes learning more about their different religious faiths and even visiting each other’s respective places of worship.

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8 Start at the Beginning

Tracy, Brian Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

Your problem is to bridge the gap between where you are now and the goals you intend to reach.

EARL NIGHTINGALE

Imagine that you were going to take a long trip across the country. The first step you would take would be to choose your destination and then get a road map to determine the very best way to get there. Each day before you started out, you would locate yourself on a map relative to where you were and where you planned to go in the hours ahead. Life is very much the same.

Once you have decided upon your values, vision, mission, purpose, and goals, the next step is for you to analyze your starting point. Exactly where are you today, and how are you doing, in each of the important areas of your life, especially as they relate to your goals?

Jack Welch, CEO of General Electric for many years, once said that the most important quality of leadership is the “reality principle.” He defined this as the ability to see the world as it really is, not as you wish it were. He would begin every meeting to discuss a goal or a problem with the question, “What’s the reality?” Peter Drucker referred to this quality as “intellectual honesty,” dealing with the facts exactly as they are before attempting to solve a problem or make a decision. Abraham Maslow once wrote that the first quality of the self-actualizing person was the ability to be completely honest and objective with himself or herself. It is the same with you.

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10. Omnipotence and Eternity (and Other Great Things)

Marc Allen New World Library ePub

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OMNIPOTENCE AND ETERNITY (AND OTHER GREAT THINGS)

I have omnipotence at my command

and eternity at my disposal.

— ELIPHAS LÉVI

Eliphas Lévi was a writer and magician in France in the 1800s. (Full disclosure: I haven’t read a word of Lévi, other than the phrase that opens this chapter, which was quoted in Moon-child, a novel by Aleister Crowley that I really enjoyed, a magical battle between the forces of light and darkness.) His words touch on and contain the essence of magic. Let’s read them again slowly, and ponder them a bit:

I have omnipotence at my command

and eternity at my disposal.

The phrase in itself is a powerful tool in a magician’s mind. It is an affirmation, a declaration, and a summoning. The words have the power to summon the great forces they bring into focus: omnipotence and eternity.

Omnipotence

Omnipotence — all power. The power of all creation. It is at our command. As Ella Wheeler Wilcox put it:

When spirit rises and commands,

The gods are ready to obey.

What is the source of our omnipotence? Those of us who were raised as Christians were given a simple way to understand it when we were children: God, we were taught, is omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent — all-powerful, all-knowing, and present everywhere. Since God is everywhere, God is obviously in every atom of every cell of our bodies. We are part of God.

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5: Time-Release Motivators

Levesque, Paul Berrett-Koehler Publishers ePub

It is the greatest shot of adrenaline to be doing what you have wanted to do so badly. You almost feel like you could fly without the plane.

—CHARLES LINDBERGH

Dreamcrafting isn’t exactly rocket science, as we’ll be the first to admit. Ironically, though, when it comes to sustaining motivation, a little understanding of rocket science can actually help a great deal.

The Saturn 5 rocket (used to launch the Apollo lunar missions) stood 360 feet tall and weighed 3,000 tons when loaded with fuel. This forty-five-story cylindrical object was not one single hollow fuel tank, however. The rocket was divided into three separate “stages,” each with its own entirely separate propulsion system.

The first stage (the lowest part of the rocket assembly as it stood on the launch pad) contained 2,200 tons of fuel—nearly 75 percent of the total. Does this mean the first stage propelled the astronauts nearly 75 percent of the distance to the moon? Not quite; in fact, the first stage fell away from the assembly, its fuel supply entirely spent, at an altitude of no more than forty miles above the earth. This was the amount of fuel required to overcome the earth’s gravitational pull from ground level.

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Chapter 2: Mechanical Triggers

Ya-Ling J. Liou Return to Health Press™ PDF

CHAPTER 2

Mechanical Triggers

TISSUES OF THE BODY CAN EXPERIENCE mechanical injury when structural integrity is threatened. Some examples of mechanical stress or mechanical triggers of inflammation include:

• Compression (compressive forces)

• Lengthening, i.e., any positioning of body parts at some distance from our individual center of gravity

(tensile force)

• Shearing forces that result from combining compression and tension

“The spine experiences and negotiates the compressive force of gravity all day long.”

Compression

Compressive forces can come from gravity or from a crushing type of injury

(Figure 2.1).

FIGURE 2.1 COMPRESSION—A MECHANICAL STRESS: Compression

is a mechanical stress that can trigger pain. The spine experiences and negotiates the compressive force of gravity all day long. Gravity is a significant compressive force all on its own, but, combine that with a blow or a fall, and we have a reasonable mechanical trigger for pain.

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